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5 Years Ago Today…


I married my best friend. 

We had the PERFECT day.


I gained a HUGE new family.


I had a special dance with my Dad.


I smashed cake on B’s face.


We wore Mickey Ears.


We had saw the most beautiful sunset. 


We ate, drank and danced the night away!



We ended the night with a beach bonfire.


We realized how lucky we are to have amazing family and friends.


I never realized my life could get any better than that day, but 5 years later it just keeps getting better.  It is amazing how fast time goes by, and I still couldn’t be happier to be married to my best friend and the most wonderful man on the planet.  He continues to be my champion, my rock and my hero.  Yes, he drives me crazy sometimes and I know I sure drive him bonkers at times.  We’re not perfect, but we have found our perfection.  I can’t wait to see what the next 5, 10, 15, 20+ years have in store!

I love you B!

Is Honesty Really The Best Policy?

It’s been one of those weeks…where words either bite you in the ass or slap you in the face!  Either way it stings…


I had a jaw dropping encounter yesterday that stopped me in my tracks and left me on the verge of tears for quite some time.  It also left me contemplating not only the words of others, but MY words.  

Yesterday I went to CVS to pick up my monthly prescription of Mesalamine.  I’ve never been shy about talking about my Ulcerative Colitis.  I want to share my ups, my downs, my crappy days…literally.  I’ve found comfort in talking with others who struggle with this disease and I hope to do the same for others.  However being open about talking about my disease does not mean it’s cool for others to make jokes about it.  Most people are on an oral form of this drug, but not me.  It’s believed that the oral form is what 7 years ago caused Acute Pancreatitis, a life threatening inflammation of the pancreas…no bueno.  Since I can no longer take the medication systemically, I now have to give myself nightly enemas.  Yup…this has been my reality for the past 5+ years. Does it always work? No. Does it keep my symptoms at bay for the most part? Yes.  Have I ever declared this publicly? No. It has been something I’ve only shared with my close family and friends, and here is why…

Ok really?  Do I have to explain why?  There is something taboo in our society when it comes to talking about your bowel movements, which is kind of ridiculous because it effects ALL of us!  Yes, we all poop…let’s get over it.  Well maybe I should listen to my own advice.  

Back to picking up that prescription of 4 giant boxes of enemas yesterday.  Because of the stigma associated with it, it’s never the most comfortable experience, but over time I’ve just learned to deal with it.  That was until today when the dude behind the counter said, “What, is this all for a party?”  Really?!?!  You work at a pharmacy and this is what you say to someone??  I wish I had some witty comeback for him, but I was so shocked that all I managed to say was “I wish!”  Ugh.

I left as quickly as I could, got back to my car and was rattled.  I texted B to tell him what happened and he immediately had that witty response for the dude to made me chuckle, but I was still upset for most of the day, which got me to thinking…  That dude didn’t mean any harm, at least I hope he didn’t.  I think he was just trying to lighten an awkward situation, but just didn’t do it in the best way.  In a way, he was just being honest.  Which led me to start reflecting on my own honesty this past week.  

In the span of one week, I have managed to seriously offended two of my closest friends due to my honesty.  When I get close to people, I don’t hold back.  I share my true feelings and I’ve come to realize that it can be a bit harsh sometimes.  Maybe my delivery comes out cruel when it was meant to be joking, or maybe a truthful remark is just too harshly conveyed…I’m not sure.  Maybe that brutal honesty isn’t always the best policy, even if I think I’m just being funny, helpful, whatever….maybe it’s just hurtful.  Hurtful like the CVS dude was to me.

I have since apologized to my friends and hopefully they aren’t holding resentments (they told me they weren’t so I hope not!!!) but that doesn’t mean this past week hasn’t been an incredible learning experience for me. It’s important to choose your words wisely, especially with the ones you love because those words mean even more to them.  I would never purposefully hurt them…I love them.  However this doesn’t only hold true just for the ones you love…we should be kind and thoughtful to everyone, even that douchey CVS dude 😉  We all have our faults, but I hope and believe that most humans actually give a shit about each other and want to be kind.  But with that, does it mean that honesty isn’t always the best policy? 

I love my friends and family…more than I could ever express in words, but sometimes maybe too much where I say things that shouldn’t be said, or that could be just softened a bit.  I find it hard to find my filter at times, but all I can do is learn from my mistakes and keep getting better.

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25 People, A Muddy Yard & One Bathroom

A few months ago B came up with the idea of having his entire family (all 23 of them) over to the house for a barbecue this summer.  Most of his family haven’t been to our house since they live almost 2 hours away and we figured it was time.  We’ve been here for almost 5 years now!  Plus, after all the crappy things that went on this winter, we figured that life is too short to not spend it with your family…no matter how crazy they may be.  We picked the date of June 14th and left it at that.

Who knew June 14th would come so quickly!  Last week was full of running errands and stressing about having all of these people at my house.  I don’t think we have ever had more than 8 people here at one time, so this was going to be interesting.  Plus, it had rained for the entire week leading up to this (with crazy downpours the day before!), so the backyard was a squishy mess with many areas of pooled mud.  Lovely.  My reclusive nature was definitely going to be put to the test.

The good news…everything went great and the family had a blast and the day turned out to be gorgeous!  We set up a canopy for shade along with a few tables for everyone to sit.  Yeah some of the chairs sunk in to the ground, but it worked.  Plus we have the patio where most people seemed to congregate so they didn’t sink 😉



The FIFA World Cup started last week, so most of the men stayed inside to watch that.  They missed out on all the good times outside…whatever, their loss.



We thought ahead and got some toys for the kids so they would be entertained.  The boys spent most of the time in the front yard playing soccer and the girls loved the hula hoops!  There was even a contest…can you guess who won?



Even B tried to get in on the action, but this is about the extent of his hula hooping skills…


The highlight of day for the girls was when I took them down to see the basement and they discovered my exercise equipment!  I couldn’t get them off of the treadmill and they were lifting weights like crazy!  Obviously I kept encouraging them because girls who lift are pretty rad!


Afterwards they all collapsed on the couch…


Overall, the day was great!  Having one bathroom for 25 people proved to be a bit tricky as the tank didn’t fill up with water quick enough for the constant use which caused a bit of a panic for some people.  Thankfully we figured out a system and told people to wait at least 5 minutes before heading in there after someone came out…seemed to do the trick.

Also, the cats weren’t to thrilled with all these people in their house.  I kept them in the bedroom so there wasn’t a chance for one of them to go outside or get manhandled by the kids.  They were still a bit freaked out.  Cleo curled up on the floor in B’s clothes and Neala set up camp in the closet among my sneakers.  Poor spoiled kitties 🙁


The day was full of laughs, good food and family!  That’s what life should be about, right?  Hey maybe we’ll even make this a yearly tradition!


What do you do for big family get togethers?

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A Thankful Birthday…

Today my mid-30s become a reality, but that reality is quite different from what I thought it would be.  I can’t really pinpoint what I thought it would be, but I do know that I never thought 34 would be as much fun as it actually is.  


When you are a kid, you always think of people who are 30+ as OLD and they no longer know how to have fun.  Well I’m not sure what 30 year olds I met when I was younger, but it definitely wasn’t me!  I never thought I would feel this young at my age.  Aside from all the craptastic things that have been going on the past two months, I can honestly say this is the best I’ve ever felt.  Both physically and emotionally…I’m the best I’ve ever been.  Let me tell you why…

I’m finally comfortable with me.  Looking back, I HATED my 20s.  I had no idea who I was or what I wanted to do with my life.  I was a flailing mess.  I often think that a do-over of my 20s would be nice, but if I was really put back there, would I have a better handle on things?  Probably not.  I’d still be a hot mess of emotional baggage and self loathing trying to find my way.  Blech…good riddance 20s, I’m glad I never have to see you again.    

I am comfortable in my skin.  I have always been the heavier girl.  I’ve never been thin and I don’t ever remember a time that my thighs didn’t rub together.  I remember being called “thunder thighs” by my crush in the 7th grade and being mortified even though I wasn’t quite sure what it meant.  But even through years of ridicule for being the chubby girl, I never let it bother me or define me.  I love my thick thighs because the give me strength.  My big boobies are sensual and desired by men and women alike.  And damn…my body is just too bootylicious for ya!   

I am striving to be a healthier me.  I didn’t start on this healthy living road until after I was 30.  I was a smoker, drank heavily, dabbled in recreational drugs, ate very poorly and hardly exercised.  You know…I was invincible. That obviously started taking a toll on my body and I knew this was not the way I wanted to continue to live my life.  I am nowhere near perfect or the epitome of healthy living, but I do strive to be better.  I’ve been 4+ years smoke free, I make healthier food choices, I exercise on a regular basis and I now know the importance of rest.  Who would’ve thought that I could ever run a full marathon, 7 half marathons, 2 10-milers, 2 10Ks, & 6 5Ks?!?  Plus I can lift way over 100# over my head and 225# off the ground?!?! AND all of those things happened after I was 30! Badass comin’ at ya!

I have found a strong core of people.  Being an only child, I have always been a bit of a loner.  I’m perfectly fine sitting home alone with a cat on my lap and watching bad TV. Crazy cat lady hasn’t been far off from my ambitions in life.  However in the past few years I have found an amazingly wonderful group of people that have not only enhanced my life, but have made me want to be a better person.  They have pushed me out of my comfort zone, challenged me, laughed with me, cried with me and have overall just made me want to be a better person.  I have found compassion, love and humor through each and every person who I have the privilege to share my daily craziness with and for that I am forever thankful.  

I have the BEST partner.  Things always seem to come back to B around here, but really how could they not.  He is my strength, my soulmate, my laughter and my love.  We speak an unspoken language that is impossible to explain to anyone else.  There is no one on the planet who I could possibly feel more comfortable around or share my deepest thoughts and secrets with.  I am beyond lucky to have found my soulmate who stands by me through the worst and supports me in my crazy.  I could never be the person I am today without that support and stability…my rock.

I know that things can only get better from here because I am motivated.  I’m not perfect…I skip workouts, I have too many cocktails, I have a cupcake addiction and I have a love affair with cheese.  BUT I’m always trying to be better and that’s the best I can do.  I am thankful for all of the wonderful things in my life and I will never take that for granted.  

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As A New Year Begins…

As 2013 came to an end, I couldn’t help reflect on all of the good, the bad and the ugly that has gone on this year.  I’m not one for resolutions, in fact, I actually despise them.  It’s basically a way to set yourself for failure.  But I always like to look back, reflect and see how I can improve.  Here are the things that stuck out to me:

Strength & Fitness

I’ve been going strong with CrossFit for about a year and a half now and I really want to take it to the next level in 2014.  My progress have been kind of stagnant in many movements due to the tightness in my hips, but I am committed to work on my hip mobility at home and with my coach.  Look I even got my own WOD this week!


This year I want to work on my form, particularly with snatches and overhead squats, I want to work on my double unders because they basically don’t exist now, and to FINALLY get a pull up.  3…2…1…GO!  


I’ve been plagued with this crappy (pun intended) disease and for the past few months it has gotten the best of me.  It has consumed my thoughts, my emotions and my overall feeling of wellness.  It’s really hard to not let that happen, especially after dealing with it for over 10 years with no end in sight.  My doctors have recommended that I try Humira, but I just don’t feel like it’s the right thing for me right now.  


So I’m going to overcome it this year.  I can’t get in a funk like this again…I just can’t because it actually makes my symptoms worse.  If I have a flare, I will deal with it head on.  I will focus more on my food and try to pin point what if anything is affecting me.     

Smile & Explore

I have an amazing family and live in a beautiful area.  B and I tend to waste our weekends away at home on our computers or in front of the TV.  There is so much out there that we haven’t experienced and I want to make a point to get out there (when it gets warmer of course!) and enjoy it!

Sarah-Barry-EpcotOn the list for this year:

All of these are within 3 hours from home…so what’s my excuse??

I want to make this a great year and I hope you’ll come along with me for the ride!

What do you want to do this year?

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