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25 People, A Muddy Yard & One Bathroom

A few months ago B came up with the idea of having his entire family (all 23 of them) over to the house for a barbecue this summer.  Most of his family haven’t been to our house since they live almost 2 hours away and we figured it was time.  We’ve been here for almost 5 years now!  Plus, after all the crappy things that went on this winter, we figured that life is too short to not spend it with your family…no matter how crazy they may be.  We picked the date of June 14th and left it at that.

Who knew June 14th would come so quickly!  Last week was full of running errands and stressing about having all of these people at my house.  I don’t think we have ever had more than 8 people here at one time, so this was going to be interesting.  Plus, it had rained for the entire week leading up to this (with crazy downpours the day before!), so the backyard was a squishy mess with many areas of pooled mud.  Lovely.  My reclusive nature was definitely going to be put to the test.

The good news…everything went great and the family had a blast and the day turned out to be gorgeous!  We set up a canopy for shade along with a few tables for everyone to sit.  Yeah some of the chairs sunk in to the ground, but it worked.  Plus we have the patio where most people seemed to congregate so they didn’t sink 😉

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The FIFA World Cup started last week, so most of the men stayed inside to watch that.  They missed out on all the good times outside…whatever, their loss.

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We thought ahead and got some toys for the kids so they would be entertained.  The boys spent most of the time in the front yard playing soccer and the girls loved the hula hoops!  There was even a contest…can you guess who won?

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Even B tried to get in on the action, but this is about the extent of his hula hooping skills…

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The highlight of day for the girls was when I took them down to see the basement and they discovered my exercise equipment!  I couldn’t get them off of the treadmill and they were lifting weights like crazy!  Obviously I kept encouraging them because girls who lift are pretty rad!

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Afterwards they all collapsed on the couch…

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Overall, the day was great!  Having one bathroom for 25 people proved to be a bit tricky as the tank didn’t fill up with water quick enough for the constant use which caused a bit of a panic for some people.  Thankfully we figured out a system and told people to wait at least 5 minutes before heading in there after someone came out…seemed to do the trick.

Also, the cats weren’t to thrilled with all these people in their house.  I kept them in the bedroom so there wasn’t a chance for one of them to go outside or get manhandled by the kids.  They were still a bit freaked out.  Cleo curled up on the floor in B’s clothes and Neala set up camp in the closet among my sneakers.  Poor spoiled kitties 🙁

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The day was full of laughs, good food and family!  That’s what life should be about, right?  Hey maybe we’ll even make this a yearly tradition!

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What do you do for big family get togethers?

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So That’s It???

Friday I left a job after 5 and half years.  I did it with a clear head and no regrets.  It was the best decision for me.  It has caused me a ton of anxiety and honestly I still feel like I have to get up and go to work tomorrow.  This is an exciting new chapter, but I can help but be slightly sad.

I spent my last week cleaning my desk, tying up loose ends and getting as much detail together about upcoming projects as I could.

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I tossed a giant garbage bin full of paper.  I tossed 5 years of work, of my life.  All of my things, reduced to one bag.

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It didn’t seem real until the final few days….basically when the talking stopped.  Everyone was quiet around me, there was a lot of whispering.  I started feeling uncomfortable and I just wanted to leave.  I worked in a small 6 person office which made it even more awkward.  On Thursday, I cried as I said goodbye to my coworker who has been my partner these past 5 years.  She started about a month after me and she will be leaving a week after me.  We shared a brain and many laughs…that was hard.

On my last day, I was at my desk for 2 hours before anyone talked to me and that was another coworker who I’m friendly with.  About an hour later, my manager came over hugged me goodbye and wished me well.  Told me to keep in touch.  It felt genuine, but that’s what you say, right?

It’s no secret that I have had a strained relationship with our CEO ever since she came on board 3 years ago.  We never saw eye to eye and to say she is lacking in integrity is an understatement.  That is what ultimately led to my decision to leave.  You can only work for someone like that for so long before it really begins to take a toll on your own integrity. I’ve always enjoyed the work I’ve done, our Board of Directors and our members.  I would’ve loved to help grow the Association even more, we do great work, but when you see that bad decisions are being made and your work is not being represented appropriately or valued…it’s time to move on.

I’m sure she was happy to see me go.  No one to challenge her anymore, no one to see through her.  This was clear by how I was treated like a stranger in my final days.  Just a goodbye and a wave as I walked out the door.  No thank you, no lunch, no card.  5+ years of hard work and dedication reduced to a smile and a wave.  That was it…  I didn’t expect much, but I couldn’t help but feel horrible as I walked out the door.  I came home and felt sad on a day I should be celebrating my new life.  

But all can be cured with good people, good food and a lot of laughs 🙂  B took me out to our favorite restaurant Caseus where I had the most delicious Stonington scallops followed by lemon cheesecake.  

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Then some good friends came over and we drank a lot of wine and watched funny videos until 3 am.  I even got congratulatory flowers!

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And that’s what life is really about.  Not the people who bring you down, but the people who lift you up.  The experiences that make you smile, make you feel good.  I’m proud of the work that I’ve done, but those last few days really made it clear that I was not meant to be there anymore.  While I’m still a little sad, I know that will all go away next week when I can really focus on me.  On what I want to do.  How lucky am I?  No room for sadness here…good riddance.   

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