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5 Years Ago Today…

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I married my best friend. 

We had the PERFECT day.

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I gained a HUGE new family.

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I had a special dance with my Dad.

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I smashed cake on B’s face.

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We wore Mickey Ears.

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We had saw the most beautiful sunset. 

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We ate, drank and danced the night away!

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We ended the night with a beach bonfire.

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We realized how lucky we are to have amazing family and friends.

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I never realized my life could get any better than that day, but 5 years later it just keeps getting better.  It is amazing how fast time goes by, and I still couldn’t be happier to be married to my best friend and the most wonderful man on the planet.  He continues to be my champion, my rock and my hero.  Yes, he drives me crazy sometimes and I know I sure drive him bonkers at times.  We’re not perfect, but we have found our perfection.  I can’t wait to see what the next 5, 10, 15, 20+ years have in store!

I love you B!

Is Honesty Really The Best Policy?

It’s been one of those weeks…where words either bite you in the ass or slap you in the face!  Either way it stings…

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I had a jaw dropping encounter yesterday that stopped me in my tracks and left me on the verge of tears for quite some time.  It also left me contemplating not only the words of others, but MY words.  

Yesterday I went to CVS to pick up my monthly prescription of Mesalamine.  I’ve never been shy about talking about my Ulcerative Colitis.  I want to share my ups, my downs, my crappy days…literally.  I’ve found comfort in talking with others who struggle with this disease and I hope to do the same for others.  However being open about talking about my disease does not mean it’s cool for others to make jokes about it.  Most people are on an oral form of this drug, but not me.  It’s believed that the oral form is what 7 years ago caused Acute Pancreatitis, a life threatening inflammation of the pancreas…no bueno.  Since I can no longer take the medication systemically, I now have to give myself nightly enemas.  Yup…this has been my reality for the past 5+ years. Does it always work? No. Does it keep my symptoms at bay for the most part? Yes.  Have I ever declared this publicly? No. It has been something I’ve only shared with my close family and friends, and here is why…

Ok really?  Do I have to explain why?  There is something taboo in our society when it comes to talking about your bowel movements, which is kind of ridiculous because it effects ALL of us!  Yes, we all poop…let’s get over it.  Well maybe I should listen to my own advice.  

Back to picking up that prescription of 4 giant boxes of enemas yesterday.  Because of the stigma associated with it, it’s never the most comfortable experience, but over time I’ve just learned to deal with it.  That was until today when the dude behind the counter said, “What, is this all for a party?”  Really?!?!  You work at a pharmacy and this is what you say to someone??  I wish I had some witty comeback for him, but I was so shocked that all I managed to say was “I wish!”  Ugh.

I left as quickly as I could, got back to my car and was rattled.  I texted B to tell him what happened and he immediately had that witty response for the dude to made me chuckle, but I was still upset for most of the day, which got me to thinking…  That dude didn’t mean any harm, at least I hope he didn’t.  I think he was just trying to lighten an awkward situation, but just didn’t do it in the best way.  In a way, he was just being honest.  Which led me to start reflecting on my own honesty this past week.  

In the span of one week, I have managed to seriously offended two of my closest friends due to my honesty.  When I get close to people, I don’t hold back.  I share my true feelings and I’ve come to realize that it can be a bit harsh sometimes.  Maybe my delivery comes out cruel when it was meant to be joking, or maybe a truthful remark is just too harshly conveyed…I’m not sure.  Maybe that brutal honesty isn’t always the best policy, even if I think I’m just being funny, helpful, whatever….maybe it’s just hurtful.  Hurtful like the CVS dude was to me.

I have since apologized to my friends and hopefully they aren’t holding resentments (they told me they weren’t so I hope not!!!) but that doesn’t mean this past week hasn’t been an incredible learning experience for me. It’s important to choose your words wisely, especially with the ones you love because those words mean even more to them.  I would never purposefully hurt them…I love them.  However this doesn’t only hold true just for the ones you love…we should be kind and thoughtful to everyone, even that douchey CVS dude πŸ˜‰  We all have our faults, but I hope and believe that most humans actually give a shit about each other and want to be kind.  But with that, does it mean that honesty isn’t always the best policy? 

I love my friends and family…more than I could ever express in words, but sometimes maybe too much where I say things that shouldn’t be said, or that could be just softened a bit.  I find it hard to find my filter at times, but all I can do is learn from my mistakes and keep getting better.

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A Commitment To Myself After One Year of RAD Living

It’s hard to believe that it’s been a year since I started this site.  The past 12 months have definitely been full of big highs, like starting my own businessa trip to Disneyland and Barbells for Boobs, but there were also quite a few lows as well, my winter funk, a devastating miscarriage, and the loss of a mentor.  And that’s life…ups, downs and all of the in betweens.  We can only learn from our experiences and move on.  I know I’m stronger and wiser (that’s debatable) because of them….so let’s move on!

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This year I want to make a commitment to myself.  A commitment to be a better person, a happier person, a healthier person!  I can only be successful if I commit to being the best self I can be, and I can’t be there for others if I don’t take care of myself.  So here are some of my goals.

1. Eat Better & Drink Less

Don’t we all find ourselves saying this…A LOT?!?  I know I do.  I go through ups and downs all the times.  I have a cupcakes addiction and I really enjoy martinis…sometimes I indulge in both things a little too much.  With the summer and my CSA providing fresh produce it’s much easier to stay on track right now, but I want to stay on this path!  My goal is to follow the 80/20…80% of the time eat well and 20% of the time enjoy those indulgences.  

2. Stick to a Training Plan

Time and time again, I’ve tried to map out my training for upcoming races or competitions and every time I fail.  EVERY. TIME.  I have 2 events coming up this fall, the Disney Fit Challenge and the Wine & Dine Half Marathon.  I am determined to make these events GREAT!  Starting next week, I will be following Jeff Galloway’s training plan for the Wine & Dine Half Marathon which has two 30 minute runs and one log run per week.  I will also continue with CrossFit 4-5 times per week depending on my schedule.  This plan means that there will be many days where I will have to run in the morning and then WOD in the evening.  To ensure proper recovery, I’ve also incorporated one full rest day…I know that will definitely be needed.  Now all I have to do is stick with it!  Easier said than done…      

3. Schedule My Time Better

Time management is probably the biggest lesson I’ve learned since becoming self-employed.  Your day can get away from you so quickly and because I’m working from home there are other distractions like laundry and cats.  Scheduling has become a necessity and I need to make it even more detailed going forward.  My goal is to actually block out my day for business development, client projects, blogging, training and personal time.  I think this will be key to having less stress and getting projects done on time.

4. Give Back to the Community

I really want to volunteer this year.  Whether it be with a local community group like the United Way, or at an event like the Making Strides Against Breast Cancer Walk, or simply handing out water at a local race…I need to do something.  I am so grateful for all of the volunteers that have supported me in the many races I’ve done and 

5. Love the Ones I’m With

My family and friends mean the world to me, but do I always let that show?  I’m not 100% sure.  This year I want to make more of an effort and let everyone in my life who means something to me know it.  There will probably not be and grand gestures here, but just picking up the phone more often to check in or simply sending a card to let you know I’m thinking about you.  Everyone needs to feel special…especially if they are πŸ™‚

6. Be Happy

I started down the road to happiness the day I quit my job and I never want to veer off of it!  It has improved my health and overall well being.  It’s amazing what living in a toxic environment will do you not just your motivation, but to your physical health.  I aspire to be happy every day and love what I do.  When it comes down to it, that really is what life is all about.

Sometimes being selfish is ok.  It just consists of a balance of doing what is right for you while being there for others.  It’s a continuing juggling act, but as time passes I seem to get more and more balanced.  I’m committing this year to be better and be even more RAD than before.  

Thank you for reading, commenting, and being supportive over the past year.  I hope you will continue to stick around and share your journey with me as well.  This little blog has opened the door to so many opportunities and has introduced me to amazing people.  I can’t wait to see where the next year brings!

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25 People, A Muddy Yard & One Bathroom

A few months ago B came up with the idea of having his entire family (all 23 of them) over to the house for a barbecue this summer.  Most of his family haven’t been to our house since they live almost 2 hours away and we figured it was time.  We’ve been here for almost 5 years now!  Plus, after all the crappy things that went on this winter, we figured that life is too short to not spend it with your family…no matter how crazy they may be.  We picked the date of June 14th and left it at that.

Who knew June 14th would come so quickly!  Last week was full of running errands and stressing about having all of these people at my house.  I don’t think we have ever had more than 8 people here at one time, so this was going to be interesting.  Plus, it had rained for the entire week leading up to this (with crazy downpours the day before!), so the backyard was a squishy mess with many areas of pooled mud.  Lovely.  My reclusive nature was definitely going to be put to the test.

The good news…everything went great and the family had a blast and the day turned out to be gorgeous!  We set up a canopy for shade along with a few tables for everyone to sit.  Yeah some of the chairs sunk in to the ground, but it worked.  Plus we have the patio where most people seemed to congregate so they didn’t sink πŸ˜‰

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The FIFA World Cup started last week, so most of the men stayed inside to watch that.  They missed out on all the good times outside…whatever, their loss.

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We thought ahead and got some toys for the kids so they would be entertained.  The boys spent most of the time in the front yard playing soccer and the girls loved the hula hoops!  There was even a contest…can you guess who won?

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Even B tried to get in on the action, but this is about the extent of his hula hooping skills…

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The highlight of day for the girls was when I took them down to see the basement and they discovered my exercise equipment!  I couldn’t get them off of the treadmill and they were lifting weights like crazy!  Obviously I kept encouraging them because girls who lift are pretty rad!

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Afterwards they all collapsed on the couch…

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Overall, the day was great!  Having one bathroom for 25 people proved to be a bit tricky as the tank didn’t fill up with water quick enough for the constant use which caused a bit of a panic for some people.  Thankfully we figured out a system and told people to wait at least 5 minutes before heading in there after someone came out…seemed to do the trick.

Also, the cats weren’t to thrilled with all these people in their house.  I kept them in the bedroom so there wasn’t a chance for one of them to go outside or get manhandled by the kids.  They were still a bit freaked out.  Cleo curled up on the floor in B’s clothes and Neala set up camp in the closet among my sneakers.  Poor spoiled kitties πŸ™

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The day was full of laughs, good food and family!  That’s what life should be about, right?  Hey maybe we’ll even make this a yearly tradition!

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What do you do for big family get togethers?

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Happy Father’s Day!

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It’s pretty clear that my Dad was a driving force behind my Disney obsession.  Some of my best memories are of spending time with him in Walt Disney World both as a kid and as an adult.  

The serious lawyer that my Dad is during the day is far from the man I know.  He is fun, energetic, supportive and full of corny jokes.  He has made me laugh for as long as I can remember and I always look forward to hearing his stories.  We share a love of food that has only made us closer over the years.  He makes the BEST breakfasts and is a pro on the grill.  He made sure I read the NY Times to know what was going on in the world, exposed me to all of the cultural offerings NYC had to offer, and took me to explore the world.  He is there for me when I need him and supports me in all the decisions I made…no matter how crazy they may be.

I am so thankful and lucky to have had this influence in my life.  I am who I am today because of him and for that I am proud.  My Dad is my biggest fan and I am his.

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Happy Father’s Day to you Dad and to all the Dad’s out there.  I think everyone can agree that the world is a much better place because there are Dad’s out there telling corny “Dad jokes!” πŸ™‚

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